Why is speaking up for yourself so challenging?

speaking upYou could be the most confident person on the planet but finding the confidence to speak up for yourself can be incredibly difficult. Whether you are feeling overwhelmed at work, or or in your relationship, remember that you have a voice and it is important that it is heard.

Ask questions

Become the most well-informed person in the room. By asking the right questions you will get a better idea of a situation, become more informed about a person and have all the information you need to make a decision.

Ditch the laziness

Have people in your life whether they are co-workers, friends, family members or partners that support you and don’t drag you down.

Keep it to yourself

For most of our lives we are told to just keep things to ourselves and not rock the boat, but that can’t always be the case and shouldn’t always be the case. Make sure that what you are saying is something positive and constructive. Focus on putting positivity out there instead of putting negativity out into the world. “If you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all” is a mantra I live by. Speak up for yourself but keep it productive. Write any negative thoughts down and think about how to move forward. If the negative thought is something that needs to be addressed, then think about how to best approach it.


It is so important to listen to what is going on. I do this all the time where instead of listening to all the different sides of a story I just jump to conclusions and assume the worst. By actively listening to others you will make the most out of communication. One last thing to remember when listening is to make sure that your body is listening too. Body language can be a give-away if you are not listening, keep your body open and responsive to communication.


People are not mind readers and staying silent can never be an option. Silence will only let you remain where you are, it will not give you the tools to move forward. What’s important is to think about how you respond to someone. By thinking about the points that have come before this one, what is the best way for you to respond? Make sure that how you are responding to situations is constructive and is not confrontational.

Your thoughts and feelings are important, and you have every right to speak out and have a voice. However, remember that going from 0 to 100 in a conversation isn’t going to help anyone. Make sure that you have all the information by asking questions, listen to others and respond appropriately.

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