When your family announce their plans for Christmas, you might start thinking about all the problems to arise. Family dynamics are always tricky, especially as you get older and have carved out a life of your own. More often that not, family gatherings at Christmas are a stress rather than an opportunity to relax. Here you can find the most annoying family traditions and traits, so you know how to deal with them. Happy holidays.
Your family dislikes your significant other
Things are about to get personal. Christmas is a time when family secrets seem to come out. Parents might decide you will not be sharing the same room, or going out on date nights. Even worse though, your parents might dislike your partner (and/or vice-versa). Whether it be for political, cultural or financial reasons your family might just take this time to tell you how your s/o isn’t right for you. Of course their approval will mean a lot but it is not your job to be defensive. Take it in, nod politely and approach them with an invitation to get to know your partner a little better.
Being treated like a child, again
Parents more than anyone else often forget that we are adults and capable of making our own decisions without supervision. Brush off the small things, and leave the bigger discussions to a later date. Being asked if you are getting married yet, trying for a baby, considering a degree are all normal conversations to have with parents, but on your terms and when you want.
Everyone has a different ‘Christmas’
Everyone has a different idea as to what the perfect Christmas looks like. After working hard all year, a lie-in is a dream. However, there could be some little ones who have other plans. If you are all staying together the night before Christmas, remember that everyone lives differently and there can’t be any set rules. Everyone needs to pitch in, so divvy up the house chores, clean where you can and adapt a ‘letting go’ philosophy.
You have zero privacy
Peaceful solitude is not going to happen when spending the holidays with your family. Expect a lot of invasion and lack of personal space.
Your financial situation is different
Cue the awkward reactions and uncomfortable long pauses. Not everyone earns the same and it is imperative you remember this. The joy of Christmas is it is a time to give, so the price tag should never matter, even is some family members insist it does. If this is a year you are struggling then think about more creative and thoughtful gifts. Pinterest is a fantastic website for ideas and Four Christmases ; a hilarious film that sums this up perfectly. Equally, if you have a handsome income then consider when would be an appropriate time to hand out your presents.
Nobody understands your mental health issues
1 in 4 people suffer from a mental health issue in the UK each year and Christmas can undoubtedly be a stressful time. Planning ahead can save you time and money. It is essential to also remember that alcohol is a depressant and drinking excessive amounts can cause low mood, irritability or aggressive behaviour. Take time out for yourself, either by going for a walk, reading or mediating before going to bed.
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